I have been extremely homesick lately. But the thought confuses me. If I were to go there, they most certainly would take one look at me and say, “外人!” To which I get confused. My heart is there. I grew up there. I feel more at peace there than here. And here, when I came “home”, everyone called me that weird Japanese girl.
Don’t I get to belong anywhere?

Third Culture Kids (abbreviated TCKs or 3CKs or Global Nomad) “refers to someone who [as a child] has spent a significant period of time in one or more culture(s) other than his or her own, thus integrating elements of those cultures and their own birth culture, into a third culture”.
Since the term was coined by sociologist Ruth Hill Useem in the 1960’s, TCKs have become a heavily studied global subculture. TCKs have more in common with one another, regardless of nationality, than they do with non-TCK’s from their own country.
There are different characteristics that impact the typical Third Culture Kid:
- TCKs are 4 times as likely as non-TCKs to earn a bachelor’s degree (81% vs 21%)
- 40% earn an advanced degree (as compared to 5% of the non-TCK population.)
- 45% of TCKs attended 3 universities before earning a degree.
- 44% earned undergraduate degree after the age of 22.
- Educators, medicine, professional positions, and self employment are the most common professions for TCKs.
- TCKs are unlikely to work for big business, government, or follow their parents’ career choices. “One won’t find many TCKs in large corporations. Nor are there many in government … they have not followed in parental footsteps”.
- 90% feel “out of sync” with their peers.
- 90% report feeling as if they understand other cultures/peoples better than the average American.
- 80% believe they can get along with anybody.
- Divorce rates among TCKs are lower than the general population, but they marry older (25+).
- Linguistically adept.
- Teenage TCKs are more mature than non-TCKs, but ironically take longer to “grow up” in their 20s.
- More welcoming of others into their community.
- Lack a sense of “where home is” but often nationalistic.
- Some studies show a desire to “settle down” others a “restlessness to move”.
- Depression and suicide are more prominent among TCK’s
Once we meet and talk, we are brothers and sisters.
An Okinawan saying.



It just looks so forlorn when it says “No bread baking.”